Suddenly, we feel empowered and excited about moving into the “New Year.” It’s our chance to start fresh like a new baby. New Years resolutions, gym memberships, new learning objectives, loosing weight …
Does it sound familiar?
Why do you make the same resolutions every year, but they always fail?
I am going to give you some clues …
You don’t believe in yourself:
You set and failed so many New Year’s resolutions in the past, that you may not even try to set any this year. You may think what’s the point of setting new goals when you are only going to fail them all over again?
I know it might be hard to believe in yourself. Doubt is a nagging voice in your head that will resist any personal growth. The only way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. So what if you failed a time or two before? Who cares? This year you can try again BUT do it better this time!
Plans in our mind always look colourful and bright, but what happens when we try to turn them into the everyday reality?
Very often we are too much thinking and not enough doing. The process results in setting too many expectations and creating unrealistic goals. Perhaps it’s time to be more realistic and don’t try to fit too much into the already hectic weekly routine.
In the beginning, try not to schedule more than 2 or 3 hours of new activity into your weekly schedule. Keep your objectives realistic and don´t be greedy, or you will be disappointed in the end, which will result in a lowered self-esteem and negative self-concept.
Reaching goals have something to do with the rhythm. Don’t try to do too much too quickly. Slow and steady habits are better than wanting it ALL too quickly. Small changes work better because they are less intimidating. For example, do you want to loose weight? Stop it with thinking about drastic super restrictive crash diets that promise miracles in short period of time. Instead, you could introduce a little simple habit into your life such as drinking more water during the first week and introducing more fruits and vegetables into your diet. Being constant and making just one SMALL change in your daily routine creates the most change and works better in the long run.
CONTEXTUALISING THE BEHAVIOUR CHANGE:
This term refers to the precision, the place and time that the new chosen activity will take place. For example, if you decide to start going to the gym make sure you stick with specific days and times … lets say every Mondays and Wednesdays while kids are in their classes. This means the same situation, the same hour and no changes. Doesn’t matter if you have another possibility, the choice has been made and it’s fixed. This will help you to stick with your new routine.
You don’t enjoy the process.
Is it any wonder people struggle with their weight when they see eating fruits and vegetables as a chore and exercise as a complete torture? The goal isn’t to add stress to your life, but rather to remove it.
The best fitness plan is the one that we enjoy, so make getting in shape fun!
Choose something that you think you will enjoy, perhaps Zumba if you love dancing. Add exercising with a good friend or two, or perhaps join a group exercise class and meet new people too!
NO QUICK RESULTS:
Remember that real change takes time, effort and mostly patience. It can take long time to break the old habit and even longer to master something new. Often we don’t see the results as quickly as we had imagined. We feel discouraged and start to question our goals. This is where it can all go wrong … so to stay motivated and filled with good intention and energy it’s important to celebrate even the smallest positive changes. This means you will see the sun even if surrounded by the forest and shadows.
FIND QUALIFIED HELP:
When you have a true determination but things gets difficult it’s natural to feel you are unable to cope with them. So consider a professional help, which will help you to cross the finishing line and achieve what you really WANT.
If there is a wish, there is a way!
Perhaps you have never thought about it this way … think about it.
Being part of your way and achieving your goals (whatever they may be) is my work.
This year we (Jackie from the Reiki Room and I) created a short Combined Therapy by combining our knowledge and experience to help you find your way to happiness and satisfaction.
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